This woman's experience as an Airforce chaplain sounds horrible. It seems the culture in the Airforce is significantly worse than Army or Navy.
Michael Shermer's 10 moral principles - no 7
7. The Responsibility and Forgiveness Principle: Take full responsibility for your own moral actions and be prepared to be genuinely sorry and make restitution for your own wrong doing to others; hold others fully accountable for their moral
actions and be open to forgiving moral transgressors who are genuinely sorry and prepared to make restitution for their wrong doing.
This is another difficult commandment to uphold in both directions. First, there is the “moralization gap” between victims and perpetrators, in which victims almost always perceive themselves as
innocent and thus any injustice committed against them must be the result of nothing more than evil on the part of the perpetrator; and in which perpetrators may perceive themselves to have been acting morally in righting a wrong, redressing an immoral act, or defending the honor of oneself or family and friends. The self-serving bias, the hindsight bias, and the confirmation bias practically ensure that we all feel we didn’t do anything wrong, and whatever we did was justified, and thus there
is no need to apologize and ask for forgiveness.
As well, the sense of justice and revenge is a deeply evolved moral emotion that serves three primary purposes: (1) to right wrongs committed by transgressors, (2) as a deterrent to possible future bad behavior, (3) to serve as a social signal to others that should they commit a
similar moral transgression the same fate of your moral indignation and revenge awaits them.
